Addressing the Most Common Mistakes in Mental Health: A Counselor's Perspective

As a seasoned psychologist/psychiatrist/counselor, I often see a myriad of misconceptions and pitfalls that people encounter on their journey to mental wellness. Understanding these mistakes and their underlying causes can help guide individuals and society towards a more compassionate and supportive approach to mental health.

The Most Common Mistake: Not Reaching Out Due to Shame and Stigma

One of the most profound challenges in mental health care is the reluctance of individuals to seek help due to feelings of shame and stigma. This is a deeply rooted issue, affecting not just mental illnesses but also other aspects of personal identity. According to a study, approximately one in four people worldwide are affected by mental illness, yet many go untreated because they fear judgment or rejection.

Statistics on Mental Health

Global Statistics on Mental Illness: 1 in 4 people globally are affected by mental illness, with over 800,000 suicides worldwide annually, one death every 40 seconds. Depression and Suicide: Depression is now the leading cause of disability, surpassing heart disease. Suicide is the second leading cause of death in the age group of 15-24 years.

These statistics highlight the urgent need for better education and support structures around mental health.

Personal Experience: Overcoming Shame

As a depression survivor, I have personally experienced the shame cycle for several years. The phrases like "I am not calm enough," "I am not strong enough," "I hate my body," and "I cry too much" were constant in my narrative. These negative beliefs were reinforced by societal expectations, media portrayals, and even some members of the medical community. The reaction I received sometimes deterred me from seeking professional help until almost eight years into my illness.

The Role of Family and Society

The family often plays a significant role in perpetuating shame and stigma. For example, some patients may be suppressed, shut down, or mocked. They might be told to "toughen up" without being given the necessary support. This condition is not limited to mental health issues alone; it extends to self-acceptance and self-love. Society, media, and even the capitalist industries contribute to the negative self-image and shame.

Breaking Down Barriers: Promoting Compassion and Empathy

To address these issues, we need more conversations, greater accessibility to psychiatric help, and a more compassionate attitude from everyone, especially family and friends. Mental health should be treated with the same importance as physical health. The goal is to validate people's feelings, make them feel that their concerns are important, and that they are not "crazy" or "weak." We need to guide individuals to self-love, to see their worth, and to understand that their feelings are valid and not defined by external judgment.

Media and Cultural Influence

The media and cultural stereotypes play a significant role in teaching us to hate ourselves and feel ashamed for who we are. The opposite of sensitivity is often seen as insensitivity, not bravery. We need to recognize the power of compassion and empathy in saving lives and fostering a more inclusive society. None of us are truly free unless everyone is free from stigma and shame.

Glennon Doyle said, "The opposite of sensitive is not brave. It's insensitive. And that's no badge of honor."

Conclusion

Mental health issues are real and can affect anyone. By acknowledging and addressing the root causes of shame and stigma, we can create a safer and more supportive environment for individuals dealing with mental health challenges. It is essential to have open conversations, make psychiatric help accessible, and promote empathy and inclusion. Only then can we truly make a difference in the lives of those struggling with mental health issues.