Am I a TERF for Believing Transwomen Should Get Surgery and Hormones?

Perhaps the term 'TERF'—trans-exclusionary radical feminist—encompasses those who maintain a rational and logical stance regarding transwomen's journey and their bodily autonomy. Transphobia, indeed, has become a catch-all term for anyone who questions the new woke religion surrounding gender identity. Ordinary individuals often rely on visual cues to determine the gender of others, labeling such observations as the expression of one's gender. If one aims to fit in within society and be perceived as a woman, it is reasonable to present themselves in a manner consistent with societal norms.

Personal Experiences and Insights

Having navigated the transition experience, I am transgender yet refrain from using facilities intended for women because my height makes passing difficult. My journey includes a deep-seated attraction to women and a prolonged celibacy period. In engaging with cisgender women on social media platforms like Quora, opinions range from passionate adamant rejection of any male-born person in women's restrooms to support provided with conditions, such as cleanliness after using the toilet.

Challenging Preconceptions and Ethical Questions

The notion of policing gender identity is inherently problematic. Intellectually and ethically, the proposal of segregated spaces based on biological verification, regardless of appearance, is fraught with complications. Segregation in any form, whether implicit or explicit, remains unethical. It is highly unlikely that you would be aware you shared a restroom with a transgender woman unless someone specifically informed you.

The Transition and Social Norms

While hormone treatment can be a crucial step for many transitioning individuals, it is neither necessary nor a requirement that gender confirmation surgery (GCS) be part of the process. Surgery often involves significant personal and financial sacrifices, neither of which are feasible for everyone. In my case, my insurance does not cover it, and I have not saved the funds necessary for it. The primary reason for the requirement of surgery seems to stem from a fear of potential harm rather than a practical necessity. For instance, a closed bathroom stall with a urinary control system offers adequate privacy to mitigate any concerns.

Locker Room Behavior and Privacy

Locker rooms, whether in gym settings pre- or post-surgery, observe a range of behavior reflecting cultural norms and modesty concerns. Regardless of gender, individuals typically wear towels when moving around the space. Even in the absence of such guidelines, there is usually a cultural expectation to cover one's body when in communal areas. At the gym, there is a minimal risk of unwanted exposure due to individual cubicles with curtains and towel-wrapping habits. The idea that someone could act on a vile desire in a crowded and watched environment is highly improbable.

Conclusion

Transgender individuals, including transwomen, undergo a multifaceted journey that involves both psychological and physical changes. While transitioning through hormone therapy is a common practice, the need for gender confirmation surgery is highly individual and based on personal and financial feasibility. The concern over safety and ethical considerations in communal spaces, such as locker rooms, neglects the understanding that reasonable and responsible behavior is generally observed by all genders. Society should support individuals in their transitions while ensuring privacy and respect for all.