An Unforgivable Decision: A Father's Abandonment and Its Impact

When faced with the question of why a father abandoned his daughter for another woman, the best course of action is often to seek a direct answer from the father himself. Unfortunately, many parents in history, and unfortunately, many more in the future, will engage in such behavior. It is my earnest plea that you direct your question to him.
He must understand the severity of the position he has placed you in and should not shift blame to others, particularly your mother. He made his decision based on his own will, for better or worse.

The Nature of Decision-Making

The decision to abandon a child is rooted in poor judgment. Perhaps the father felt a lack of love for the mother or perhaps he made an immature decision, impulsive rather than considered. This is a critique of modern times, where societal pressure to provide for and be responsible for children has sometimes diminished. In the olden days, a man who became a father was seen as a mature individual with responsibilities towards both the woman and the child. He was expected to provide for and make them happy. However, modern times have led to a different narrative: 'I was not happy with her, I didn’t want the child, I was not ready, and I just didn’t love her,' so we must live with these bad decisions.

This is a narrative I have lived. My father left me as a child, and I share your frustration. It is unfortunate that the decision-making process of parents is so often passed down to the children who must grapple with the consequences.

Responsibilities of Being a Father

A loving father should unconditionally care for his children. This is biologically hardwired for almost every parent. The decision to abandon a child goes beyond mere personal dissatisfaction; it is a breach of trust and responsibility that leaves an indelible emotional scar on the child.

I cannot fathom a father who would make such a decision. The act of loving your children should not be contingent on personal happiness or relationship status. It is a fundamental responsibility, a biological imperative. There is something deeply concerning about your father's decision.

Facing Reality and Moving Forward

Unfortunately, not all parents are good parents. There are millions of children who have been abandoned all over the world. It is important to acknowledge that sometimes these challenges are beyond our control. However, it is equally crucial to move on and live with integrity. You have the power to choose how you react to your father's actions and decisions. You can choose to either join him or rise above and be a better person than your father and the rest of them.

Let him know that you will not accept this decision and that it is beyond wrong for him to expect you to make such a choice.