Autistic Individuals and the Fears of Societal Perception

Avoiding social interaction due to the fear of others' perceptions is a significant challenge for individuals on the autism spectrum. In a world where social interactions are often complex and nuanced, those with autism may feel overwhelmed and at a disadvantage. This article explores these fears, the origins of such anxieties, and how these factors can impact the lives of autistic individuals.

Challenges of Socializing in Autism

People with autism face unique social challenges that can be exacerbated by the dynamics of social interactions. The typical hurdles of socializing become a nightmare due to heightened sensitivity and difficulty in interpreting social cues. For those with autism, these challenges can make daily interactions highly daunting.

While most people worry about how others perceive them to some extent, individuals with autism may experience these concerns more intensely. The trouble in understanding and dealing with feelings – both their own and those of others – can lead to a profound sense of insecurity. Those who have experienced negative reactions in social settings are particularly prone to worrying about future interactions.

Perceptions and Socialization

The impact of others' perceptions on socialization can vary widely. If a person is treated with kindness and respect, the experience can be much more positive and less stressful. Conversely, any form of derogatory treatment can significantly disrupt social interactions, making it necessary to either avoid or drastically alter them.

Some individuals with autism have experienced severe physical attacks from non-autistic individuals who claim to like or understand them. Such experiences can leave a deep and lasting impact, sometimes even leading to severe trauma. These experiences can make social interactions, even those that might otherwise be positive, extremely challenging.

The Influence of Allistic Society

Living in an allistic (non-autistic) society can drastically alter one's behavior and perceptions. Autistic traits are inherent and are not something that can be altered, but simple cause and effect interactions in such a society can influence how one perceives and behaves. The societal emphasis on conforming to neurotypical norms often leads to the hiding or burying of true traits.

Children with autism are frequently taught that certain thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are morally wrong or unacceptable. This external social brainwashing can lead to feelings of invalidation and a lack of self-esteem. Many adults with autism have continued to conform to others' expectations to avoid abuse or consequences, but this often comes at a significant cost.

The Dangers and Realities of Masking Autism

Masking autism can be incredibly demanding and may not always be sustainable. The act of pretending to be something one is not can lead to severe burnout, particularly if it becomes a long-term strategy. Autistic burnout is a state where the individual feels emotionally, mentally, and physically drained, often requiring an extended period to recover.

Some autistic individuals fear that showing their true selves can lead to public humiliation or discrimination. The trauma of past experiences can make them wary of any situation that might expose their true nature. For some, the fear of being singled out and abused or discriminated against is so profound that they would prefer to take their own life rather than face such a situation again.

The reality for many autistic individuals is the constant struggle to navigate a world that often seems unwelcoming or even hostile. The fear of being unemployed due to discrimination is a genuine concern for many capable autistics, with unemployment rates among this population being strikingly high.

Understanding these fears and the underlying causes can help in creating a more supportive environment for autistic individuals. By recognizing the inherent challenges and the societal pressures that contribute to these fears, we can work towards a more inclusive and understanding society.