Can Narcissists on the Lower End of the Spectrum Change Their Disorder?

Narcissists on the lower end of the spectrum often ask themselves if they can change the deeply ingrained traits and behaviors associated with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). This article delves into this issue, examining whether change is possible and the challenges involved.

Understanding Narcissistic Disorder

Based on the diagnostic criteria of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), NPD is characterized by a pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, among other symptoms. What is often debated is whether those on the lower end of the spectrum can learn to manage their disorder. This is a complex issue, given that many narcissists lack empathy for the damage they cause.

Is the Spectrum of Narcissism a Barrier to Change?

The idea of a spectrum doesn't inherently hinder or help a narcissist's desire for change. At both the high and low ends of the spectrum, individuals with NPD often lack the self-reflection needed to recognize and address their issues. They typically believe that they are the greatest person on earth and that others have the issues, not them. This makes the prospect of change extremely challenging.

Perspectives of Narcissists

Narcissists often believe that there is no need to change because they see themselves as flawless. My personal experience, as someone who was married to a narcissist, contrasts sharply with this belief. I found that my inadequacies were often highlighted by my ex-husband, who presented himself as the epitome of perfection. This stark contrast underscored the reality that recognizing flaws is crucial for any form of change.

Challenges in Changing Behaviors

For someone with NPD to change, they would need to recognize that they have issues and then work consistently to alter their behaviors. This involves a significant amount of self-control and perseverance. Recognizing and changing deeply ingrained behaviors is extremely difficult, especially when the individual believes they are flawless.

Managing with Medication

Some individuals with NPD attempt to manage their disorder through anti-psychotic and anxiety medications. However, psychological support is often limited and comes from random individuals they encounter in society. This makes it challenging to maintain any significant changes in behavior.

Recognizing and Tackling Narcissistic Behaviors

While many of us possess a degree of narcissism, true narcissism involves a set of behaviors that are socially unacceptable, such as egoism, selfishness, and the desire to hurt others. For someone to be diagnosed with NPD, they must exhibit a pattern of these behaviors. Given that narcissists often believe themselves to be perfect, they lack the motivation to change. Therefore, managing NPD is not a spectrum issue but rather an issue of consistent, driven change in the face of significant self-delusion.

Conclusion

In conclusion, while those on the lower end of the narcissism spectrum face unique challenges, it is not impossible to change. True change involves recognizing one's issues, maintaining a consistent effort to alter behaviors, and often, professional intervention. However, the belief that they are perfect and the lack of empathy for the damage they cause make this a formidable task. If you or someone you know is struggling with these issues, seeking professional help is highly recommended.