Defying the Passage of Time: A Long Life and Independence

As one goes through their journey to middle age, it's common to hear vague statements about the breakdown of bodily functions. The stereotype that older people find it harder to learn new things often holds no truth in many cases. This piece aims to explore the natural aging process, prioritize personal independence, and challenge the societal perceptions of old age.

Understanding the Aging Process

People generally associate a certain date with the death of an individual. However, this date merely marks the moment when the natural process of dying reaches its final stop. The truth is, deterioration starts much earlier and steadily over the years. Physical and mental capabilities begin to weaken, gradually leading to the end of one’s life.

The decline in eyesight, hearing, and digestive power is a visible sign of the journey towards death. These changes are a natural part of aging, but they don't define the end of life. The exact age at which a person stops getting significantly weaker can vary from individual to individual. Instead of focusing on the end, we should emphasize the importance of leading a life that is full and vibrant, well into old age.

Challenging Societal Perceptions

It is common to hear and say phrases like "Your body breaks down after 80 years." However, this statement is too generalized and detrimental. Every individual ages differently, and not every 80-year-old is frail and waiting for their demise. Many older individuals are vibrant and engaged, finding joy in life's simple pleasures. The idea that older people sit around mourning their youth is outdated and untrue.

Society often portrays old age as a time of decline, but many are living longer and more fulfilling lives. The notion that life ends at a certain age is a myth. Many individuals wish to experience life for as long as possible and retain their independence. The goal should be to live a life where one can maintain their autonomy and continue to actively participate in the world.

My Personal Journey

I am currently 76 years old and have been fortunate to maintain a reasonable level of health and independence. Coming from a family of long-lived individuals, I have seen firsthand the struggle to endure the last few months or years of life. I aim to avoid the same by living a healthy lifestyle, including consuming enough wine to potentially extend my life beyond the 90s.

One of my strategies to ensure a longer, healthier life is to plan for the worst. If the days become too challenging, I have envisioned a simpler solution: sending the great-grandchildren to the downtown east side to bring me a dose of fentanyl. However, recent news has brought a twist – I have no great-grandchildren. This realization emphasizes the importance of planning for the future and the unpredictability of life.

Conclusion

The fear of dying is often amplified by societal attitudes, but this fear can be managed by focusing on personal independence and enjoying life to the fullest. Aging gracefully and living a long life is achievable, and we should embrace the challenges and joys that come with age. The key is to challenge preconceived notions and live a life that aligns with one's values and aspirations.