Essential Dos and Don'ts a Therapist Should Share with Clients

Therapy is a journey that requires trust, honesty, and understanding. Your therapist is a guide, not a savior. Here are some essential things they should share with you during your initial consultation.

1. The Role of the Therapist: A Guide, Not a Saviour

What your therapist needs to tell you:

It is not my job to fix you. It is my job to guide you in how to fix yourself; you have to do the work. I will not do more work than you. Remember, if you waste our time, you will get charged for it.

2. Confidentiality and Trust

Trust is the cornerstone of your therapeutic relationship. Your therapist needs to convey:

I am a secret keeper. I am legally and professionally bound to protect your confidentiality. Even if you pass away, I will still not share your information unless you have a legal obligation to do so. However, if you are in immediate danger or pose a risk to others, I am legally bound to disclose your information to protect you and others.

3. Boundaries and Professionalism

Respecting boundaries is crucial for a healthy therapeutic relationship. Your therapist must:

Set clear boundaries. My job is to be your therapist, not your friend, so we will not have any social interactions outside of therapy sessions. Not take your calls outside of my working hours. Not come in to compensate for missed sessions on weekends. Charge you for missed appointments and ensure payment before each session. End your session on time, regardless of lateness.

4. Challenging and Supporting You

Your therapist should:

Encourage you to be honest and lie if it saves you time and money, but don't expect me to do your work for you. Challenge your choices and choices you might be avoiding. I want to help you hear your subconscious thoughts. Remind you to accept responsibility for your actions and decisions, and not seek blame or praise from me. Not advise you on decisions. I will observe, question, and guide you through the process.

5. Reflection and Future Outlook

Lastly, your therapist needs to:

Be transparent and honest. I understand that this journey might be tough and could get worse, but it can also improve with effort. Let you know that addiction is progressive and only manageable through consistent effort. You can relapse, but you can recover if you keep working on it. Bare with me. This is the hardest but most rewarding journey you will embark on. It will be painful, but it will also be transformative. Remind you of your intrinsic value and worth. Even when you doubt yourself, know that you are important and worth the fight.

Remember, your therapist is there to support you, guide you, and help you uncover your inner strength. Building a strong, professional relationship can lead to profound personal growth and transformation.