Understanding the Symbolism of Nightmares of Stillbirth as a Man

It is perfectly normal to experience dreams and nightmares that might seem confusing or even distressing. If you are having nightmares about having a stillbirth, even as a man, it is important to remember that these dreams do not 'mean' anything in a literal sense. Just as Auntie Em said in The Wizard of Oz, 'We dream all sorts of silly things.' These dreams are reflections of your subconscious mind and can provide valuable insights into your emotional and psychological state.

Embracing Your Gifts and Talents

Consider the idea that the 'child' you carried, even in a symbolic sense, is still within you, creatively written in your DNA by your Creator. You were born to create and to enjoy the talents and abilities that you possess. There is a precious talent or ability or aspect of your personality that wants to be born and expressed. However, you might be denying or suppressing it. It is essential to explore what this might be.

Identify Your Longings and Creativity

Begin by meditating on your deepest longings and inner creativity. Quiet your mind and ask yourself, 'What is it that I want to express, but keep as a secret?' This can help you uncover hidden talents or abilities that you might have been neglecting or ignoring. These might be artistic, musical, or other creative talents, or perhaps aspects of your personality that you feel are not accepted or embraced by others.

It is important to give this aspect of yourself some space and time. You may feel tentative or unsure, especially if you are concerned about the reactions of others. This is a normal feeling, but it is crucial to acknowledge and validate these feelings. If you are unsure, start by talking to this part of yourself. You can even imagine it as a separate entity sitting in a chair, conversing with you. This technique, known as Gestalt Empty Chair work, can reveal much about your inner world and help you connect more deeply with your true self.

Upscaling Your Confidence and Self-Acceptance

To overcome the fear or discomfort that comes with revealing your true self, it is important to work on building your confidence and self-acceptance. If you have an artistic, musical, or creative talent but doubt your abilities, it is essential to start believing in yourself. This can be a gradual process, but it is crucial to take steps to nurture and express this part of yourself.

Similarly, if you have a desire to express yourself in a way that is not accepted by your family, community, or social circle, it is important to address this carefully. You may need to work on tending to your outer life while also nurturing your inner life. This might involve talking to different parts of yourself, inviting them to share their views and feelings, and responding with empathy and understanding.

Conclusion

Discovering and embracing the unconscious parts of yourself can be a transformative journey. It will bring you gifts and self-awareness, but the journey is ultimately up to you. You don’t have to do more than acknowledge and embrace these parts of yourself, even if you are not ready to fully express them right away.

Remember, dreams and nightmares are a powerful tool for self-reflection and personal growth. Embrace them, explore them, and let them guide you towards a more fulfilling life.