Facing Eating Disorders Early: A Guide for Youth and Parents

First off, I want to congratulate you on recognizing that you may be suffering from an eating disorder. This is a huge first step, and you should be proud of that. I have had an eating disorder since I was 15 years old, and I am now 30, only recently beginning my first proper and committed journey into recovery.

I spent many years in denial, so recognizing and addressing the issue is a significant achievement. It's understandable to be scared to tell your parents or other family members. I was in the same position and fiercely tried to hide it from them for a long time. However, they often figure it out eventually, often only when you become severely unwell. Recognizing the need for help early might have helped you avoid struggling for so long.

Since you are only 14, you are going to need support from your parents and family. Although it may feel hard and they may not understand, you can help them to do so. If it's too hard or scary to talk to them directly, consider writing it down and giving them a copy. Suggest taking you to your GP or local doctor for an assessment and referral to a psychiatrist for a proper diagnosis. Additionally, consider other important treatment professionals such as eating disorder specialized dietitians and psychologists.

The Complexity of Eating Disorders

Eating disorders are complex mental illnesses driven by underlying issues and insecurities. Telling someone with an eating disorder to 'just eat' is like telling someone with severe trauma to 'just forget' the traumatic events they experienced. Unfortunately, eating disorders are often misunderstood. However, your parents love you and would want to help you. They may not understand or know how to at first, but they can learn over time. Treatment professionals can help educate them.

You cannot tackle this illness on your own. It is too much for one person, especially for someone as young as you. Your family's support is crucial. If they don't 'get it' initially, they can learn how to understand over time. This can be done through treatment professionals who talk to and educate them. Another step is to reach out for help sooner rather than later. Despite the many challenges, recovery is possible.

A Personal Journey

I am glad to be in recovery now, but I wish I had gotten there sooner. Encourage others to seek help earlier so they don't miss out on important life experiences and the opportunity to live a full life free from guilt and shame. Open up to your parents, a trusted family member, or even a teacher.

It may be hard and scary, but you can do this. Trust yourself and believe in your ability to overcome this challenge. If you wish to talk about anything, feel free to follow and message me privately. Connecting with others who understand or have gone through a similar experience can be incredibly helpful.

Providing Support and Understanding

Your experience and your eating disorder are valid, no matter how much you weigh, how much you restrict, or how much you engage in compensatory behaviors like over-exercising, laxative use, or self-induced vomiting. Trust that your parents' love for you remains, and they have the potential to understand and support you. You deserve help, happiness, and a full life free from the fears and guilt associated with eating disorders.

Trust that recovery is possible and that you have the strength to overcome this challenge. Let us support you in your journey toward recovery and a healthier, happier life.