Comprehending the Nature of Closure in a Text Breakup

It's a common scenario: you break up with someone via text, and there you are, six months later, still trying to make sense of the breakup. You think you're giving yourself “closure” by either waiting to hear from your ex or by finding ways to reconnect with them. But the reality is, he will not change his mind.

Debunking the Myth of External Closure

Say to yourself, “He will not come back, and if he does, he won’t apologize or understand.” When you delve into considering what you would do if this person were no longer in your life, you find that dealing with a breakup on your own is more important. Relying on your ex's actions for closure won’t lead to healing. Instead, you must face the breakup head-on, even if it feels like a monumental task.

Developing Internal Closure

True closure isn't about what your ex does for you; it’s about what you do for yourself. Begin by processing the relationship. Grieve the end of the relationship, and understand that both you and your ex were part of it. Identify the positives and negatives and accept them as parts of the experience. Be kind to yourself, forgive the past, and move forward.

Building a New Narrative Around Closure

Closure happens when you can look back on the relationship with a newfound perspective. You can achieve that when you can say, “There was good and bad in that relationship, but it is over. I will focus on the future and leave the past in the past.”

Strategies for Moving On

If you are struggling to let go, it is essential to take active steps to remove the ex-companion from your life. This means:

Remove: Stop all forms of contact, avoid social gatherings with them, and get rid of any photos or items that remind you of them. Be firm and decisive in distancing yourself.

Replace: Focus on building a support system, make new friends, or even take up a new hobby. Avoid rushing into a new relationship until you've truly healed. Healing is crucial for ensuring you are ready for a healthy, new connection.

Embrace this period of healing as a time to start building a new, wonderful life devoid of the past's shadows. Healing is not a luxury; it is a necessity, and waiting for closure from your ex is not achieving it. Find the strength within to move on and write the next chapter of your life.

With every step you take, remind yourself, “I am more than this past relationship. I can heal and build a better life for myself.”

Go forth and create the best version of yourself without trying to rely on someone else’s actions for closure.