What It’s Like to Have Surgeon Parents

I'm glad you asked. Being the child of two surgeons comes with a unique set of experiences that are both positive and challenging. From my early childhood to my adult life, my parents have shaped my world in ways that have been both comforting and demanding.

As the youngest of three siblings, born in 1990, I was the recipient of an upbringing that was, without a doubt, the best a child could ask for. My parents, both dedicated in their respective fields, made sure that I never lacked anything. With an older sister by 14 years and a younger brother by 11 years, my childhood was filled with their unwavering support and love. From family vacations to educational opportunities, they ensured I was well-cared for and nurtured.

Family Vacations and Spoiling

Some memories stand out more vividly than others. One such experience was the family cruises. My father would go to great lengths to take us on trips, despite not being an avid traveler. For instance, we took an unforgettable trip to Alaska for a fishing expedition, a journey that nearly made him seasick every time. This quest for family bonding was a reflection of the amount of love and care my parents had for us, often at the expense of their own comfort.

Home Cooked Meals and Double Standards

But it wasn't just travel; at home, we were expected to have home-cooked meals, a simple but significant aspect of family life that was never taken for granted. My mother is an ophthalmologist, and my father is a general surgeon. Both were committed to their work, but the love they had for their children ensured that no sacrifice was too great. Whether it was preparing a full course meal or ensuring we had adequate support in our educational pursuits, their efforts were always there.

Academic Pursuits and Trivial Class Assignments

When I headed to college, I was fortunate enough to have a straightforward path set by my parents. I enrolled at the University of Arizona, not even having to juggle a part-time job. However, it took an unusually long six and a half years for me to complete my undergraduate degree. During this time, I realized how valuable my parents' support was, especially when I faced challenges in my studies. Had I not made the most of the resources they provided, I would have regretted the mistakes I made during my undergraduate years.

The Gift of a Semester Abroad

One of the most significant gifts my mother presented me with was the opportunity to study abroad through the Semester at Sea program. This program, offered by the University of Virginia, allowed me to travel to 11 different countries within a single semester. From Halifax, Nova Scotia in Canada to the beaches of Hawaii, I experienced a vibrant array of cultures and cuisines that would have been beyond my reach otherwise.

The Hard Truth of Medical Corrections

While the positives are abundant, my working experience with my parents reveals another side. I spent seven years as my father's office assistant, a role that was demanding and often frustrating. My father, while loving, is a strict and no-nonsense man. He did not hesitate to point out my mistakes, even if they were minor, and this sometimes led to belittling me. This environment, while stressful, was highly motivating because my father's job involved ensuring patient safety and health. His vigilance was necessary, and his strict standards were understandable.

Looking Back and Moving On

Despite the challenges, I wouldn't change my upbringing for the world. My parents' influence has instilled in me a strong work ethic and a deep sense of responsibility. As I look to the future, having just completed my Masters, the journey with my parents will continue, albeit in a slightly altered form. I am now more autonomous, but the parental habit of treating me like a child persists, a reminder of the love and care that was always there.

So, what is it like to have surgeon parents? It's a mix of luxurious accommodations and tough love, a blend of stress and spoiling. While the journey was not always easy, the end result is a grateful and resilient individual who cherishes the lessons learned.