Narcissists: What They Really Want from Life

The often misunderstood narcissist sets themselves apart with a strong desire for everything they see—and a willingness to take from others to get it. This article delves into their life goals, behavior patterns, and the underlying complexities of their mindset.

Everything, and More

Let's start with the most obvious. Narcissists want everything. From a young age, the concept of 'mine' is deeply ingrained in them. This is why many people who know narcissists consider them to be like toddlers who think they own everything they see. They truly believe that they should have whatever they want, whenever they want it, without putting in the effort to achieve it themselves.

However, the real problem lies in their desire for things to be 'free.' There is no understanding of effort, work, or the value of things. Narcissists see the world as a bottomless well of resources waiting for them to fill their ever-growing void. Their underdeveloped brain makes it difficult for them to comprehend that their constant demands can never be met, leading to a bitter and frustrated existence.

Everlasting Supply

Narcissists seek an everlasting supply of everything they want. Understanding the future or planning for tomorrow is not their forte. They live solely in the present, taking everything they can get without any thought for the consequences. Yesterday is distorted, tomorrow is fake, and today is all that matters.

For them, 'permanent fun times' equate to no cost and no accountability. They believe in a world where everything is easy, and nothing comes at a price. They even create a fabricated reality around their worldview, making any guidelines or boundaries difficult to discern. Their perception of the world is often colored in black and white or red, a reflection of their destructive and often toxic nature.

Varying Goals and Views

While it's true that a general dissatisfaction drives most narcissists, their specific goals can vary widely. Some narcissists see parenting as part of their life goals, using children to spread their genes further. Others are primarily focused on accumulating money and wealth without the intention of starting a family.

It's important to recognize that, while all narcissists share a core desire for success in one way or another, their methods and motivations can differ. For many, the fear of being ordinary or mediocre is a significant driving force. Narcissists abhor the idea of being seen as nothing special, valued only for their ability to leave a mark on the world.

Despite their tendency to seek success in various forms, many narcissists do not intrinsically want to hurt others. Their primary concern is still their own advancement. However, their emotional immaturity can lead them to act in selfish and impulsive ways, often leaving others hurt or in a worse position as a consequence of their actions.

Success and Narcissists

Not all successful individuals are narcissists, and not all narcissists are successful. There are indeed narcissists who have achieved significant success in their lives, but there are also many who are like the 'average Joe' because they lack the necessary plans and strategies to achieve success.

In conclusion, understanding narcissists is not about labeling them or judging them. It's about recognizing the complexities of their mindset and behavior. Narcissists have their own dynamics and goals, and while they may be challenging to deal with, they are often driven by their own insecurities and desires.