Navigating Name Changes During Gender Transition: A Personal Journey

Gender transition is a deeply personal journey that involves numerous changes, both visible and invisible. A common and often significant change during this process is the alteration of one's name. Angélique Barbèy shares her unique experience with name changes through her journey towards gender affirmation.

From "Angélique" to a Synonymous Identity

Angélique's name transition journey began subtly but became more pronounced over time. Before her legal name change from “Angélique” to simply “Angélique,” it had been a first and middle name for a considerable period. This change culminated in 1986, but her gender transition story began much earlier, with a name that was deeply entwined with her evolving identity.

Initial Steps of Transition

Angélique's decision to undergo gender transition started with small steps, one of which was facial hair removal through electrolysis. This process, which she only completed in 2017, marked a significant milestone but was far from the only change she undertook. She notes that her transition was marked by a slow progression, with the first noticeable shift being her name change.

Struggles in the Early Days

Angélique faced challenges early in her transition, both personally and socially. Attempting to meet new friends through a sex counselor in Los Angeles proved to be an uphill battle. Despite being identified as a transsexual woman, Angélique felt she did not fully identify with that label. The discomfort in making new friends extended to her personal life; her parents and even her father, called "papa," struggled to connect with her during this period.

Personal Identity and Friendship

Over time, Angélique found comfort in a community that accepted and appreciated her unique identity. She is currently among artists, particularly dancers, and has made her own mark in the dance community. The transition from being an individual seeking friendship to being an artist in a supportive environment has been a transformative journey.

Impact of Name Change

Significantly, Angélique's name change did not drastically alter how people addressed her. Her original name was functional, allowing fewer people to need to make the mental leap. As a common name, her transition to simply “Angélique” caused minimal disruption. Moreover, Angélique often used her middle name, "Samantha," as a precaution, ensuring she was correctly gendered in various settings.

Overcoming Name-Related Challenges

The rare instances where her old name caused confusion were more common in adulthood due to its commonality. In her younger years, she had no recollection of knowing any "Sams." In her adult life, however, she sometimes had to verify if the "Sam" being referred to was indeed her, making it a routine part of her self-verification process.

Dealing with Gender Dysphoria

Angélique does not experience significant gender dysphoria related to her old name. This, along with her well-established functionally identical name, allows her to navigate conversations and interactions without frustration. Her confidence has grown, and she handles the occasional confusion with composure.

Conclusion: Embracing a New Identity

Angélique's story is a testament to the gradual nature of gender transition and the personal significance of name changes. Through her journey, she has not only embraced a new name but also a new community and identity, shaping her life in a profound and fulfilling way.