Navigating School Challenges as a Masking Autistic Student: Strategies and Support

Being a masking autistic student in high school can be incredibly challenging, especially if you are undiagnosed or only recently diagnosed. The pressure to constantly #8220;perform#8221; at high levels can lead to overwhelming feelings, burnout, and a variety of mental and physical health issues. Fortunately, there are strategies and support systems you can utilize to manage these challenges effectively.

Understanding the Challenges

Many of us masking autistics find that even a highly structured classroom environment can be incredibly taxing. Undiagnosed ADHD, in particular, can make following the pace of an 80-90 minute class virtually impossible. The constant pressure to keep up with peers or the teacher can lead to a self-destructive cycle where you push yourself to the brink, only to feel utterly defeated and exhausted. As a result, self-medicating with drugs may seem like a plausible (though highly risky) solution, but it is not a sustainable or recommended approach. After attempting to keep up during classes, it is common to feel so drained that one might need to leave early simply to get some much-needed rest.

Lessons and Advice

One of the most critical lessons I learned over years of trial and error is the importance of not overextending yourself. Broadcasting your skills and abilities to teachers, supervisors, or peers can set unrealistic expectations. When you perform at a high level, your teachers and supervisors may assume that this is your norm and will push you to take on more challenging tasks and responsibilities. While this might seem like a good thing, it can ultimately lead to burnout. Teachers and supervisors might not offer accommodations or sympathy when you struggle to keep up, and in some cases, they might even take it personally and retaliate.

It is okay to perform at an average level if it means prioritizing your mental and physical health. Your well-being should always come first, and pushing yourself into a state of stress and exhaustion is not a sustainable long-term solution. It is essential to set realistic expectations and communicate your needs effectively. If you feel overwhelmed, it is important to take the necessary steps to manage your stress and regain your energy.

Creating Safe Spaces for Relaxation

One key strategy is to find safe spaces where you can calm down. These could be

The least busy bathroom in school. The corner of the library or computer lab. The office of a trusted teacher or school counselor. Under a tree on school grounds.

These quiet areas can provide a respite from the overwhelming sensory and academic demands of the classroom. They can be used for short breaks to regroup and regain your composure.

Comforting Objects and Stim Toys

Another effective strategy is to have a multitude of comforting objects and stim toys at your disposal. These can help you cope with anxiety and sensory overload. Here are some ideas:

Soft Comforting Items:

Clothes made of loose, soft, breathable fabrics. A fabric strip that you can keep in your pocket or backpack.

Stim Toys:

A fidget spinner. A rubber band to squeeze.

Comforting Smells and Sounds:

An object that holds a comforting smell, such as a dried flower or a piece of fabric sprayed with the perfume of someone you love and trust. Noise-cancelling headphones to listen to comforting music or podcasts. Sunglasses to block out overwhelming light.

Seeking Professional Help and Diagnosis

If you haven't already, I strongly recommend seeking a professional diagnosis. Having a diagnosis can significantly impact your educational experience, as it would make schools more likely to provide support and resources tailored to your needs. If you have a diagnosed condition, you may have access to Special Needs areas and support from a Special Needs teacher who can assist you more effectively. If a diagnosis is difficult to obtain due to financial or other barriers, finding a safe and quiet space on campus where you can de-stress and find respite might be a temporary solution until you can obtain necessary support.

Making these adjustments can be challenging, but they are crucial for maintaining your mental and physical health. It is not a sign of weakness to prioritize your well-being; it is a smart and essential step towards leading a fulfilling life.