Navigating the Path to Support: Helping a Teenager at Risk of an Eating Disorder

As a teenager, I've lived through the struggles of battling an eating disorder, and I can attest to the importance of support. If you are concerned about a teenager who might be on the verge of an eating disorder, it is crucial to approach the situation with education, advocacy, and empathy. Here are some steps to guide you on this challenging but vital path.

Educate Yourself

The first step in supporting a teenager who appears to be at risk for an eating disorder is to educate yourself about the specific condition they may be facing and general guidance for managing it. This includes understanding the nuances of different eating disorders, such as anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and binge-eating disorder. Consult reputable sources such as the National Health Service (NHS) or similar recognized organizations. Social media platforms and charitable organizations can also be valuable resources. However, it is important to be aware that a lot of misinformation exists, so always verify the information you find.

Advocate for Their Needs

While there is valuable information available, it is essential to recognize that what works for one person may not work for another. Some aspects of the advice you find, whether online or through specialists, may need some personalization. This is best discussed with their specialist to ensure that the approach is safe and tailored to their specific needs. Remember, a one-size-fits-all approach is rarely effective. Finding the compromise that will best support them is a team effort involving family, friends, and healthcare professionals.

Be Their Advocate and Support System

Once you have a better understanding of the situation, it is time to be there for them. Ask them what they need within the bounds of their treatment program and provide it. This could mean giving them space when they need it, or being highly available for a few weeks. Regular check-ins to see if their needs have changed can also be beneficial. It is crucial to remember that each individual's needs and circumstances will vary widely.

Tips from a Former Teenager

Having been in a similar situation, I can share some insights based on my personal experience. One of the most valuable pieces of advice is not to assume that everything is okay after one or a few conversations. Misguided assumptions can lead to further harm, as I learned the hard way. It is essential to continue to monitor their behavior and stay involved.

Another crucial point is to treat them with kindness and acceptance. I wish I had been treated with more of these qualities during my struggles. It is important to convey that you care about their health and are there to support them. If you are the only person who knows about their situation, do your best to help them find a therapist familiar with eating disorders. Look into free options and have these resources ready to share with them.

Encouragement alone is often not enough. Telling them to "just eat" or "promise me you won’t do it again" is not helpful. Instead, try to create a safe space where they can confide in you without fear of judgment. Be caring and supportive. Remind them that many people struggle with eating disorders and that they are not alone in their journey.

Lastly, avoid making them promise to "not do it again." Eating disorders thrive on negative feelings about oneself, and most people suffering from them cannot control their behaviors, especially in the early stages. Such promises often lead to feelings of guilt and shame if broken. Instead, focus on providing a supportive and non-judgmental environment.