Pro-Choice Perspective on Unborn Abortion: A Mother's Complicating Decision

I was once curious about pro-choice and how a person who believed in the right to choose would react if they discovered their mother had tried to abort them as an unborn fetus. The answer is simple: if I did not exist, why would I concern myself with such thoughts?

The reality is that many individuals have children for reasons other than simply loving life. Common motivations include societal expectations, the desire to preserve family lineage, or the misguided belief that children will ensure happiness or assist in old age. These justifications often overlook the immense responsibility entailed in bringing a life into the world.

Moreover, it is crucial to understand that a fetus has no agency in its existence. Its future is determined by adults who might even struggle to manage their own lives effectively. Sometimes, adults view the birth of a child as a means to attain happiness or as a guarantee against misery, which is a highly flawed and dangerous mindset.

While there is no issue with those who choose to have children, we must acknowledge that children do not consent to their existence. They are brought into the world with no say in the matter. As for myself, my preference has always been for non-existence, given the turmoil and suffering that I endure.

Understanding the Context: How Would I React?

Out of curiosity, how would someone who was never born be expected to 'find out' anything about anything, including the decision of their own mother to abort them? If my mother had tried to abort my birth, but was unsuccessful, and I discovered this fact, it would serve as the context I needed to understand and forgive her mistreatment of me and my family.

Instead of judging her or harboring resentment, I would feel compassion towards her. I only learned this information through a third-party account, two years ago, when I was told that my mother had passed away. My family members did not want to share this detail with me, and I only discovered it by chance, later that year, when I learnt that my uncle, my mother's brother and godfather, had died in August 2023.

Thinking about my mother's actions from the perspective of a fetus, it would have been better if my mother had been successful in her efforts to abort me. Instead, I have had to endure the hardships and injustices inflicted upon me by my family.

I dream every night that the next day will not dawn, as I struggle to overcome the abuse inflicted by individuals who consider themselves 'good and decent Christians.' The injustices and suffering that I face every day are beyond what I can endure.

Conclusion

The conversation around abortion and the choices mothers make is vast and complex. It is essential to view each decision within the context of the individual circumstances and the emotional and physical burdens carried by the mothers and their families.

Ultimately, it is crucial to have empathy, understanding, and compassion for all parties involved. In instances where individuals struggle with the aftermath of their mother's decision, it is essential to provide support and promote healing rather than judgment and resentment.