Rebounding from a Relapse: Strategies and Support for Overcoming Self-Harm

Dealing with self-harm can be one of the most challenging journeys a person can embark on. When you find yourself in the difficult situation where you have relapsed after a period of recovery, it’s important to know that you are not alone. Many individuals face this challenge and it's crucial to seek help, reassess, and implement strategies to overcome this setback.

Seek Support Immediately

For those who were previous members of 12-step meetings, the advice to ‘GET YOUR ASS BACK THERE N O W!’ is fundamentally sound. These meetings can provide unwavering support and guidance when you feel like you are sliding back into your old habits. The community at 12-step meetings is specifically designed to offer understanding, empathy, and advice from individuals who have been in your situation. It comes down to whether you have confidence in the members—

'Trust them and you will see that things will get better.' When returning to such support systems, remember that taking that first step can be incredibly empowering.

Journaling and Understanding Triggers

Writing can be an incredibly powerful tool. It allows you to examine the underlying emotions and thoughts that drive you to engage in harmful behaviors. Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you journal effectively:

When an urge strikes, grab a notebook and jot down the specific feelings or events that trigger your urge to self-harm. Write down the reasons why you don’t want to harm yourself, which can serve as a powerful reminder of your reasons for recovery. This practice can help you gain insight into your mental and emotional state, enabling you to address these issues more effectively.

By engaging in this reflective process, you can better understand your own triggers and develop healthier coping mechanisms.

Reach Out to Trusted Individuals

It’s also important to speak with someone, whether it’s a family member or a close friend who understands and supports you. You may find that a therapist, counselor, or a trusted family member can provide the necessary emotional support and guidance.

Avoid reaching out to individuals who might be the root of the problem, such as parents who do not understand or who have contributed to the harmful behavior. In these cases, finding someone you trust can be crucial:

'My husband did not understand at all and just wanted to fuss and yell. That did not help... My younger daughters did not understand they were just concerned for her life.' It’s important to recognize who can provide the right support.

Professional Help and Reading Resources

To aid in your recovery, consider professional help, such as therapy. Some highly recommended resources include:

Therapy: Speaking with a therapist can help you address the root causes of your self-harm, learn new coping mechanisms, and provide guidance on how to manage your emotions. Reading Resources: Books can be incredibly beneficial. One of the best reads for this issue is the book “A Bright Red Scream.” It provides valuable insights and strategies for overcoming self-harm.

There are also online resources available for those who prefer virtual support and guidance:

“NAMI's Guide on Self-Harm” – Offers detailed information and resources. “Psychology Today Blog” – Provides guidance on how to handle relapses and recover.

One Day at a Time and Self-Compassion

Finally, it’s crucial to practice self-compassion. Remember that every day is a new opportunity to make positive changes. Don’t judge yourself harshly for relapsing.

“‘You can only be free from self-harm or any other addictive behavior One day at a time.’ Just take it one day at a time, and try not to be overly critical of yourself.

If you need someone to talk to, feel free to connect with me. I am here to support you on your journey.

Remember, you are not alone, and it’s never too late to seek help.