Reflections on Dementia and Stroke: Personal Experiences and Insights

Having experienced the impact of both dementia and a stroke in close family members, I have first-hand knowledge of the challenges and emotional journey that accompanies these conditions. My father passed away from Alzheimer's disease approximately five years ago, and my mother suffered a severe stroke three years ago during Easter.

Alzheimer's Disease: A Slow and Gradual Progression

My father was in a nursing home for three years prior to his passing. During that time, I had the privilege, though often challenging, of participating in his care. The transformation from a vibrant and quick-witted individual to a shadow of his former self was both incredibly sad and profoundly moving. Alzheimer's disease is marked by the loss of recent memory, with individuals often regressing to long-term memory. My father's ability to walk and maintain physical stability gradually diminished, often culminating in falls as his knees would simply buckle.

The Acute Impact of a Stroke

My mother's stroke occurred on the day she visited her sister in Nova Scotia. If it had happened in her apartment, it's likely she would not have survived. Fortunately, her sister brought her to the hospital within the critical three-hour window, ensuring the most effective treatment. The recovery was a long and arduous process, with my mother spending three months in the hospital.

Comparing Alzheimer's and Stroke

The comparison between Alzheimer's and stroke reveals distinct yet overlapping symptoms. Alzheimer's typically results in the gradual loss of recent memory, with the individual reverting to long-term memory. Physical abilities are also affected, often leading to frequent falls. This process is often heartbreaking to witness, but it also provides a unique and intimate bond that can be incredibly meaningful.

In contrast, stroke can have immediate physical effects. My mother continues to see an ophthalmologist for issues in one eye, which may eventually lead to partial or complete loss of vision. Both short-term and long-term memory are significantly impacted by the stroke, with some forgetfulness being common. One notable incident involved my mother repeatedly mentioning her lunch during a two-hour conversation, indicating both short-term and long-term memory loss.

Current Situations and Care

My mother is now living in a retirement home, where she has adapted well, finding happiness and support. However, her physical health has been a source of concern. She has had multiple falls, some severe enough to land her back in the hospital, while others were less serious. Most recently, a broken leg/ankle required medical intervention, including surgery with extensive hardware involved.

Similarities and Differences in Symptoms

While both Alzheimer's and stroke affect the brain and body differently, there are striking similarities in symptoms and the impact they have on the individual and caregivers. The timeline of these conditions can vary, but their impact on quality of life, independence, and mental wellbeing is often profound and enduring.

Reflecting on these experiences, I hope that these insights can provide a clearer understanding of the challenges faced by families dealing with these conditions. If you have any further questions or would like to explore more resources, feel free to reach out.