Supporting a Friend in Therapy: How to Respond When They Share

When a friend opens up to you about their therapy sessions, it's a testament to the trust they have in you. As a supportive friend, your response should be thoughtful and empathetic. Here are some tips on how to react and continue the conversation in a way that encourages openness and understanding.

Show Gratitude and Recognition

When someone shares that they are seeing a therapist, it’s important to acknowledge the courage it takes to discuss such personal matters. Begin the conversation with a statement of gratitude and recognition for their trust. For instance:

That really touches me when you confide in me about your therapy. It shows how much you trust me, and I appreciate you sharing such personal aspects of your life with me.

Be Supportive and Encouraging

Express genuine enthusiasm and support for their decision to seek therapy. You can say:

Congratulations! I'm glad you're ready to look for support and care about yourself in this way. I'd love to hear how the search and the therapy goes for you. Do you want to talk about how you feel about realizing it’s important for you to see a therapist?

If you truly can't offer more support or updates, it's okay to be honest and clear about your limitations:

I understand that this can be a daunting step, but I want you to know that I am here to support you. I appreciate you sharing this with me, and I hope that you find the help you need.

Ask Thoughtful Questions

Encourage your friend to discuss specific aspects of their therapy if they are comfortable. You can ask:

What brought you to seek therapy, and how do you feel it will benefit you?

Be cautious not to push for detailed information if they are not comfortable.

Understand Ethical Boundaries

If your friend is seeing another therapist, it's important to understand the ethical boundaries. For example, if they are seeing a different therapist, you might:

I would ask them if there is a particular reason why they are seeing another therapist. It's important to be supportive while respecting the boundaries of the new therapist. If their new therapist requests information about their treatment, they will have to sign a release that allows me to send them any information that they may request.

Handle Conflicts and Changes in Therapy

Managing changes in therapy can be sensitive, especially if there are multiple therapists involved. Here are a few tips:

Ensure that the primary therapist is aware of any changes and maintains ethical integrity. The therapist should terminate care with the client if a new therapist is involved. Be prepared to handle any requests for information from the new therapist. Advise your friend on the importance of clear communication and mutual respect between therapists.

Remember, therapy can be a complex and nuanced process. Support your friend with empathy, understanding, and respect for their personal journey.