Understanding Narcissists and Their Approach to Treatment

Introduction

When it comes to mental health and treatment, narcissists traditionally fall into one of two categories: those who never seek help and those who might consider it but are resistant to meaningful change.

Why Narcissists Rarely Seek Treatment

Narcissists are known for their grandiose self-view, where they believe their opinions and actions are always correct. This inflated ego often extends to their relationship with others, including mental health professionals. As one narcissist put it, “don’t mess with perfection,” highlighting their belief that they are above needing help. Similarly, another commenter noted, “It’s just a sad reality that most narcissists would rather cling to their fabricated identities than admit any flaws or work on their issues.”

Seeking Treatment: A Rare Occurrence

While some narcissists might go through the motions of therapy, such as attending counseling sessions, their actions are often deeply rooted in manipulation and self-protection. In one example, a previous relationship revealed that each therapist or counselor chosen by the narcissist was seen as less capable or somehow inferior. This ongoing search for perfection through those around them often leads to frustration and further retreat into their self-deception.

The Best Approach

For those narcissists who do seek treatment, it is crucial that they are working with a professional who is specifically trained in dealing with their condition and its aftermath. Such professionals understand the complexity of narcissism and can provide the necessary tools and insights for bringing about meaningful change. Without this specialized knowledge, any efforts to help the narcissist are likely to be fruitless and may even exacerbate the situation.

Conclusion

While the reality of working with a narcissist can be challenging, it's important to recognize the importance of seeking out appropriate and specialized help. For the narcissist themselves, the path to change often starts with acknowledging a need for help, a deeply sought-after but rare recognition among narcissists.