Why Do People in AA Seem to Wrap Most of Their Identities Around AA and Being Alcoholics?

For over 26 years, I have been in recovery, and early on, it seemed that most conversations were centered around alcohol and recovery. In those early years, my circle of friends in the program who have been sober for years rarely discussed alcohol, focusing instead on their life trajectories and new perspectives.

Reasons for Identity Formation in AA

Individuals in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) often incorporate their identities deeply into the program and their experiences with alcoholism for several compelling reasons:

Shared Experience

AA provides a community of individuals who share a common struggle. This sense of belonging is vital for recovery. Members support each other through their journeys, offering a network of understanding and encouragement. Belonging to such a group can significantly impact one's ability to maintain sobriety and enjoy a fulfilling life.

Accountability

Identifying as an alcoholic reinforces the commitment to sobriety. Acknowledging one's condition can help hold individuals accountable for their actions and decisions. This accountability can be a powerful motivator for continued sobriety.

Structure and Purpose

The principles of AA offer a clear structure and purpose for members. Embracing the identity of an alcoholic within the context of AA can serve as a roadmap for navigating the challenges of life without the numbing effects of alcohol. Many members find that this identity helps them stay on track and make meaningful progress.

Transformation and Growth

Recovery often represents a profound life change. Embracing one's identity within AA can symbolize personal growth and the journey toward a healthier life. Many find that this identity shift marks a significant turning point in their lives, leading to positive changes in all areas of their being.

Coping Mechanism

Identifying with a group like AA can provide a coping mechanism. It offers tools, resources, and a narrative that helps individuals make sense of their experiences and emotions. This can be especially helpful for those navigating the turbulent waters of recovery.

Stigma Reduction

By openly discussing their struggles, members can help reduce the stigma associated with alcoholism. This can foster a sense of pride in their recovery journey rather than shame, making it easier to maintain sobriety and seek support.

Continued Support

Many individuals find that staying connected to AA helps them sustain their recovery long-term. The identity can serve as a constant reminder of the challenges faced and the progress made. This ongoing support system is invaluable for building and maintaining sobriety.

The Potential Pitfalls of Identity in AA

While the emphasis on identity in AA can be a vital part of the recovery process, it is important to recognize that it can also become an unhealthy mental obsession. As someone who has dealt with binge drinking and OCD, I can attest to the challenges and dynamics involved.

I never became an alcoholic, but I struggled with binge drinking for 11 years. My consumption was not consistent, with approximately 50 days out of a year when I may have drunk, not consecutively. Over time, I averaged drinking every 30 days. In 2019, I drank approximately 100 days, with the majority not involving binging. My binge drinking peaked in 2010 and 2011. As I aged, I slowed down, and today I have had less than 10 drinks this whole year, with the majority being infrequent and low consumption.

AA did not help me personally. Jesus provided the most significant assistance in developing self-control with alcohol. My obsessive-compulsive disorder sometimes led to fixation on how often or how much I drank in the past versus now. With God's help, my consumption has significantly reduced, and I have had less than 30 drinks since December 4th, 2021, and that was the last day I drank to the point of intoxication.

Conclusion

Every person's journey to recovery is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. The role of identity in AA can be a double-edged sword. While it can provide crucial support and structure, it can also lead to unhealthy mental obsessions. The key is to maintain balance and remind oneself of the ultimate source of hope and healing, which is Jesus Christ.