Why Do Those Who Suffer From Addiction Often Push Away the Good Parts of Their Lives?

Oh, that's an excellent question. Why did I waste 45 years of my life on alcohol abuse? That is a very difficult question to answer. But I won't live in the past. I know my recovery is pointing toward a much better future without alcohol. Each day after 15 months of sobriety, I enjoy my sobriety just a little bit more.

Understanding Alcoholism and Responsibility

Both diabetics and alcoholics shoulder the responsibility of managing their illnesses. Just as a diabetic does not give themselves diabetes, an alcoholic does not give themselves alcoholism. However, once diagnosed with the disease, it is their responsibility to do what is necessary to keep it in remission. If they do not, the disease progresses, making them at the very best, miserable.

The Human Condition and Self-Harm

Self-harm among teenagers is a devastating issue. One in five teenagers intentionally harm themselves. This act is, in many cases, the ultimate defiance, aimed at destroying one's own body and life. People who feel out of control have a tendency to take control over anything they can, even if it is harmful to themselves and others. It's easier for them to throw their lives away than to stay on the path towards recovery and sobriety.

The Addict's Perspective: Seeking an Escape

Many individuals get stuck in a rut, and alcohol appears to offer an instant escape from daily stress and boredom. When consumed in excess, alcohol can temporarily make the world a better place, boosting self-esteem and confidence to the point where individuals believe they can do anything. Everyone needs an 'off switch' in life, but the problem is that people want that high and sense of thrill every single day. Life is boring for the vast majority, and alcohol provides an escape, an adventure.

However, to the alcoholic, they are not throwing their lives away. They might try to convince themselves that life is an adventure; it's just that each day they find a new product to test or a new way to indulge. Unfortunately, this mindset can only last so long, and the reality of the situation often hits hard when they are on the liver transplant list at 45. In the moment, no one wants to think about the consequences, but the future inevitably catches up.

Personal Perspectives on Recovery

I cannot speak for anyone else, but you are making a significant assumption - that all alcoholics throw their lives away. I am not throwing mine away, and neither is my aunt, who has been sober for many years. Many individuals can be alcoholics without being active alcoholics. They can live healthy, fulfilling lives by treating their addiction just as diabetics treat their condition.

Recovery is a journey. It requires commitment, support, and a willingness to change. Understanding the complexities of addiction and the resilience people exhibit in overcoming it is essential. By focusing on the positive stories of recovery, we can inspire and encourage others on their path to sobriety and a better life.

Each story of recovery is unique, and the reasons for pushing away the good parts of life vary from person to person. However, with the right support, resources, and mindset, individuals can reclaim their lives and build a future filled with hope and promise.