Worst Reactions: Autistic Individuals Disclose Their Diagnosis to Neurotypical People

The experience of disclosing one's autism to neurotypical individuals can vary widely. Many autistic individuals face challenges in navigating these situations, as not all neurotypical reactions are supportive or understanding. This article delves into the common and sometimes detrimental reactions that autistic people encounter after disclosing their diagnosis.

Why Individuals Disclose Their Diagnosis

Many autistic individuals decide to disclose their diagnosis to neurotypical people for various reasons, such as seeking support or understanding. However, others avoid disclosure due to the negative reactions they have encountered in the past. There are also those who choose not to engage with individuals who may not be supportive, such as narcissists.

Why Those with Higher IQ May Not Understand

Some individuals believe that disclosing their diagnosis to neurotypicals is not necessary because they assume neurotypicals are not intelligent enough to understand what autism entails. This misconception can lead to a misinterpretation of the need for support and understanding from others. In reality, it takes a willingness to learn and an open mind to understand the complexities of neurodiversity.

Treating Us Well, No Need for Disclosure

Others may assume that because kind neurotypicals treat them well, there is no need to reveal their diagnosis. This can be a misread situation, as kind treatment does not always equate to understanding or the absence of judgment. Mindfulness and a willingness to advocate for oneself are essential in these interactions.

Be Careful with Narcissists

Narcissistic neurotypicals can be particularly detrimental to the mental well-being of autistic individuals. It is advised to stay away from such individuals as disclosing your diagnosis to them may not lead to positive outcomes. Their behavior can often be manipulative and harmful, making it essential to prioritize one's own safety and mental health.

Age and Interaction

The age of the person being disclosed to plays a significant role in the reaction. Different generations have varying levels of understanding and acceptance of neurodivergence. Based on personal experiences, late-born millennials and Generation Y individuals tend to be the most comfortable and accepting of autistic disclosures. In contrast, individuals in their late 30s and early 40s may freeze up and show discomfort, preferring the interaction to go back to normal.

Interactions with Older Generations

Boomers often respond with statements that can be insulting, such as, "Really, you don’t look autistic. I would never have guessed that." They might become disinterested and annoyed if the topic is brought up again, further highlighting their lack of understanding or empathy. Late-born millennials and Gen Y-ers, on the other hand, are more likely to be open to discussions and discussions about mental health and neurodivergence issues.

Comprehensive Understanding

Few people have a deep understanding of their autism until the early 1990s. As a person born in February 1964, personal experiences show that one needs to explain their autism to others to ensure they have a strong sense of how it impacts their mind and emotions.

For many, understanding of autism did not come until much later, following mental health casenotes from 1991. This highlights the importance of patient and empathetic explanations to help neurotypical individuals grasp the nuances of autism.

Challenges with Judgment and Misinterpretation

Autistic individuals may face judgment based on their behavior, especially if the neurotypical person has boundary issues or a history of poor experiences with autistic individuals. Some people may disregard non-verbal communication or misinterpret it, viewing it as a lack of sensitivity rather than an extension of their autistic traits.

For example, a person may fear and judge an autistic individual's non-verbal communication, leading to anxiety and misinterpretation. Fortunately, many people nowadays are more patient and empathetic, recognizing the complexity of neurodivergent behaviors.

Ultimately, it is crucial for both autistic and neurotypical individuals to approach these conversations with an open mind and a willingness to learn, in order to foster a more inclusive and understanding society.